getusedtoit asked:
I worked with her a very short time while I was in retail. She was the most pitiful little thing, but she was sweet to me. She was very very poor and had two little children. I know that she was very close to her father (who died only 3 weeks before her). He watched her children while she was working. I know she had epilepsy, but do not know the cause of death.
I worked with her a very short time while I was in retail. She was the most pitiful little thing, but she was sweet to me. She was very very poor and had two little children. I know that she was very close to her father (who died only 3 weeks before her). He watched her children while she was working. I know she had epilepsy, but do not know the cause of death.
I haven’t stopped crying since I found out the news 20 or so minutes ago. Like I said, I was part time and only worked there a few months, so why am I so upset?
January 4th, 2009 at 15:57
because you are not sure about life yourself. Death does this to some people. You have come to grips with a reality you are not sure whether you believe there is something beyond this existence. Also you might actually have liked her more than your realized. When we connect with someone on some some level, the loss of connection has an effect on us too. My sympathies for your loss. I hope you figure out what it is that is missing and seek to find further connections that will buoy you up when this happens again.
January 5th, 2009 at 13:54
Part of you cries because she DID have so very little ( perhaps even people that cared about her,….you do,…you’re crying proved it!)
U knew her very little doesn’t matter.
She WAS sweet to you.
She made an impact on your life !
Perhaps crying is in part a way for you to give back to her.
She sounded like a good person: she had a family, was sick, but still trying to support them best as able!
And again, all thru her problems, & with her father dying, she was sweet to you!
I think part of you admired that, albeit too late.
January 8th, 2009 at 22:45
Even if you don’t know someone very well their death can affect you a lot more then you would think it would.
Maybe you feel sorry for her kids, or maybe her death just really hit home on your life. (anyones sudden death can make us realize that anyone of us can go at any-moment without any waring.)
and like the person above me said… she must have made some kind of impact on your life. and your going to miss that. It doesn’t necessarily matter how long you knew her.
January 11th, 2009 at 13:00
You cared about her, and her family, and obviously enjoyed working with her. Seems like you were able to know her well for working just a “short time” together. Crying is normal. You can’t ever see her again, she’s just gone. That is not easy to deal with.
January 12th, 2009 at 22:29
you are sad because someone you knew has passed. You may be thinking about her children and wondering what will happen to them. It will be hard to go to work and not see her her even though you weren’t close friends. You will be OK. If you want to say your goodbyes then go to the funeral. Make a donation to her children if you can.
January 14th, 2009 at 11:49
because you are compassionate and she touched your heart- you feel for the two little kiddies who are without their mum and grandad and probably wonder why she was in such poverty when the world around us spend sickening amounts of money on guns footballers etc - bless her she is at peace now- no more pain
January 17th, 2009 at 17:51
It is normal to grieve for people we know,and it is sad,especially if she is young and is leaving two little children.
It could have come as a shock to you?
January 20th, 2009 at 18:22
Well when you work with someone it doesn’t matter how long you work with them as long as you know them for even a short period of time you will have emotions towards there death and its perfectly normal to cry its a way to release emotion and one reason is because you problem had sympathy also you knew her like i said since you described her life. but dont cry its going to be OK shes to have a much more better live than she had is a much better place.
January 23rd, 2009 at 01:09
I would cry too if I were you! She made an impact on your life although your friendship lasted a few months. You have a lot of compassion for people and knowing that her 2 young kids are without a mom is heartbreaking.
If possible, attend her funeral or send a wreath. Am sure the small gesture will make you feel better.
January 26th, 2009 at 12:19
you are so sad because you are a compassionate person .she had a sad life and did’nt really get the chance to accomplish much of anything in her young life.she had to touch a part of your life for you to be so upset.
January 28th, 2009 at 11:05
Probably because she was nice to you, not the bitchy “its all about me” type. You might felt good, at easy around her and felt sorry for her and situation she was in. It will pass with time. God bless you and her.